Why People Disagree...

dacalion

Hands Of FIRE!
ill o.g.
Battle Points: 259
I was motivated to share this with you by all the differences in opinions when concerning race, ideas and even our own knowledge...I omitted some of the aspects concerning a religous point of view but it didnt effect the content...enjoy and remember...

CHAPTER 11
WHEN PEOPLE DISAGREE
(Published in ONE BODY, Vol. 1, No. 2, Nov. 1984 by College Press, and mailed to ministers of the Restoration Movement heritage.)

Our favorite clichés and expressions are repeated because they seem to be such clear presentations of truth. One of my assertions repeated so often and with such confidence goes like this: When two people disagree on something, one may be right and the other wrong, or they may both be wrong, but both certainly cannot be right.

Total agreement on all points is improbable, if not impossible. It is not so much a matter of when or if people disagree as it is a recognition of the fact that we all differ. How may differing people live in accord? Although that question may seem to hold a contradiction, the Scriptures encourage the practice.

May, or should, one discuss his convictions with another with whom he disagrees? Certainly But he must do this with love and respect without condemning his brother. We are not called upon to violate our convictions, but we are obligated to let others live by their own convictions even as we live by ours.

We can disagree without being sectarian. We may also meet and work separately while still recognizing brotherhood and oneness. Sectarianism is a spirit, an attitude, which allows us to judge and condemn. We all disagree with other persons in our local fellowships without becoming judgmental and divisive. Why can't we extend that fellowship out beyond our own assemblies and buildings to others with whom we hold disagreements?

Even though other brothers are in error in some matters, we must not reject them, for the only brothers we have are brothers in error!


Its all good in the end...

dac
 

Sincock

Fucking Wankers
ill o.g.
Battle Points: 8
Interesting viewpoint.

Actually to be honest I disagree somewhat with one of his conclusions; when two people disagree they CAN both be right. No-one can be completely correct on any issue because it is not possible for one individual to see the whole truth of any situation. The truth of any matter includes all possible viewpoints and that which is unknowable also.

I don't know if I'm making myself clear here but consider a question, (only as a hypothetical), such as: "What is the nature of God?" The nature of God is what we perceive as being God, (or not God if we don't believe), our understanding of what God is, or isn't and much more besides. Can even God answer this question with a completely truthful answer? Can God discern his/her/its nature through our eyes...........










Fuck it..I'm gonna go smoke some more pipes.
 

dacalion

Hands Of FIRE!
ill o.g.
Battle Points: 259
Interesting viewpoint.

Actually to be honest I disagree somewhat with one of his conclusions; when two people disagree they CAN both be right. No-one can be completely correct on any issue because it is not possible for one individual to see the whole truth of any situation .

Im not following you...How can 2 people disagree (on the same topic) and both be right? there is only one truth not several different ones. To disagree is to show difference in whatever...which means that one is right or both are wrong. Im gonna need an example of what you mean.

The truth of any matter includes all possible viewpoints and that which is unknowable also.

all possible viewpoints don't make the truth, one viewpoint could be viewed wrong unknowable or not.

I don't know if I'm making myself clear here but consider a question, (only as a hypothetical), such as: "What is the nature of God?" The nature of God is what we perceive as being God, (or not God if we don't believe), our understanding of what God is, or isn't and much more besides. Can even God answer this question with a completely truthful answer? Can God discern his/her/its nature through our eyes...........

The nature of God is what we perceive as being God to us only, God is God. He is his own entity. He hasn't changed nor does he change, he's the same God. Your perception of me doesnt make me who I am, it makes me who I am to you only. For the second part, If God can do the impossible as written then it would be very easy for him to reveal his nature to us HOWEVER, God gave us the ability to choose whether or not to believe in him and his abilities.

dac
 

Sincock

Fucking Wankers
ill o.g.
Battle Points: 8
Im not following you...How can 2 people disagree (on the same topic) and both be right? there is only one truth not several different ones. To disagree is to show difference in whatever...which means that one is right or both are wrong. Im gonna need an example of what you mean.

Yes there is only one truth. I mean that we can only ever be partially right because any truth as we perceive it can only be a part of the truth not the whole truth. Like what you said below, my perception of you doesn't make you who you are. And also the converse of that is true: how you perceive yourself is only a part of who you are; how I see you is another aspect of you that you cannot know but is nevertheless true, you are more than what you and I both perceive of you but you are also that too.



all possible viewpoints don't make the truth, one viewpoint could be viewed wrong unknowable or not.



The nature of God is what we perceive as being God to us only, God is God. He is his own entity. He hasn't changed nor does he change, he's the same God. Your perception of me doesnt make me who I am, it makes me who I am to you only. For the second part, If God can do the impossible as written then it would be very easy for him to reveal his nature to us HOWEVER, God gave us the ability to choose whether or not to believe in him and his abilities.

dac

Yes, I didn't mean to make this a theological discussion. That was the only example I could think of at the time. Try and follow me on this one, (I'm not trying to challenge your faith I'm just following a line of reasoning here): If God is everything and everywhere then God is also what we perceive him/she/it as; however our perception is coloured by our nature. Part of our nature, for most of us, is a lack of awareness of our own and God's/The Universe's nature. We can comprehend part of it but the whole is beyond those of us who have not attained that level of consciousness. So our limited perception of the nature of God is true but only an incomplete truth. However, as God's awareness is of the completeness of his/her/its nature then ipso facto God is unaware of the incomplete truths of our perception because to truly comprehend our perception/truth of God's nature it is necessary to see from our perspective which is one of ignorance.

Of course, this doesn't preclude the fact that God's nature is what it is. The truth is the truth but nobody can know the whole truth because the truth includes what we all know and understand of it.

"There are more things in heaven and earth than are dreamed of in your philosophy" Shakespeare

"You have your way. I have my way. As for the right way, the correct way, and the only way, it does not exist." Nietzsche
 

dacalion

Hands Of FIRE!
ill o.g.
Battle Points: 259
Sincock, Im gonna let it go after this one because I can clearly see that we have different views. Im not gonna try to change your mind on any of this and I dont feel as if youre trying to change mine. With that in mind, I believe that it would be a useless conversation/debate if we dont share a common starting point, and Im not knocking what you feel whether its right or wrong.

OK, you said...I mean that we can only ever be partially right because any truth as we perceive it can only be a part of the truth not the whole truth...I disagree with your statement in general because (ex. I see you rob a bank and the police ask me if you were the one who robbed the bank?) and I say "YES". Im not partially right, I'm 100% right and that would be the whole truth to that matter... I understand that there are some things within the whole truth that is imposible to know but it depends on the question...(ex. if the police asked me if you were wearing a gold watch when you robbed the bank?) Truth or not, there is no way that I would know the answer to that without me seeing it. So if you were wearing a gold watch it would be a part of the truth yet I wouldn't know. Even still, my answer would be..."I dont know"...and by answering that way...Im still telling the truth 100%. I have satisfied the criteria of that specific question and the truth.

One other point...you said...If God is everything and everywhere then God is also what we perceive him/she/it as;...I personally dont think that God is everything...(ex. my shoe...though God may be the ultimate creator of everything, I dont believe that he is my shoe.) Now addressing that entire statement, in parenthesis you said...I'm just following a line of reasoning here...Reason doesn't tell me that God is what we percieve him/she/it as...even if God were everything and everywhere. Once again, perception doesn't make it true...you even said it yourself right here..."Like what you said below, my perception of you doesn't make you who you are."...I believe that both of us are in agreeance that perception has nothing to do with who God really is yet you still use perception as a way of determining who God is. That is making your line of reason, unreasonable IMO. In other words, I just cant conclude that God is what I perceieve him as (in the way that you're saying it).

I really do enjoy debating this with you but I "perceive" that there is no end to this debate because we don't share any common ground on the issue. I could be wrong on this so dont qoute me but i thought I read somewhere you saying that you don't believe in God...maybe not, Im not sure about that, nevertheless, that would be the common ground that I would need to go on with this. Please finalize my response with your own.

And this is in no way a theological discussion, as a matter of fact, my intent was to show that its OK for people to disagree and still be bothers in the end. We have met that on my part.

dac
 

Sincock

Fucking Wankers
ill o.g.
Battle Points: 8
And this is in no way a theological discussion, as a matter of fact, my intent was to show that its OK for people to disagree and still be bothers in the end. We have met that on my part.

Absolutely, I agree completely and I'm glad that we can discuss this without having any such problems.

Sincock, Im gonna let it go after this one because I can clearly see that we have different views. Im not gonna try to change your mind on any of this and I dont feel as if youre trying to change mine. With that in mind, I believe that it would be a useless conversation/debate if we dont share a common starting point, and Im not knocking what you feel whether its right or wrong.

OK, you said...I mean that we can only ever be partially right because any truth as we perceive it can only be a part of the truth not the whole truth...I disagree with your statement in general because (ex. I see you rob a bank and the police ask me if you were the one who robbed the bank?) and I say "YES". Im not partially right, I'm 100% right and that would be the whole truth to that matter... I understand that there are some things within the whole truth that is imposible to know but it depends on the question...(ex. if the police asked me if you were wearing a gold watch when you robbed the bank?) Truth or not, there is no way that I would know the answer to that without me seeing it. So if you were wearing a gold watch it would be a part of the truth yet I wouldn't know. Even still, my answer would be..."I dont know"...and by answering that way...Im still telling the truth 100%. I have satisfied the criteria of that specific question and the truth.

Of course we have common ground: we are both humans, (I hope), living in this world in this time; that's enough common ground for me.

Yes, your response to the question is true as far as you see it but what I'm talking about is that there is a "truth" of the matter outside of what you see or know of it. Using your example of me robbing a bank, what exactly did you see? Did you see the man who tunnelled into the vault and took everything the night before? (hypothetically speaking). Perhaps there's more to the matter than what you know. the whole truth of the event includes what you saw, (me robbing the bank), and it also includes what was going on in my mind, what I was wearing, what was going on in other people's minds, etc etc etc.

You actually illustrate what I am talking about with your example: If I was wearing a gold watch there is no way of you knowing it so If I say I was wearing a gold watch and you say that you don't know then we are both right but have differing viewpoints of the matter. Unless you can give all details of the event you cannot be 100% right about what happened. You seeing me rob the bank is only part of what happened at that time in that place. You will be right from your viewpoint only.

Police can tell you that when questioning witnesses of crime that there will always be directly contradicting statements and that often the truth is not grasped by any of them, (well at least the aspect of the truth that is relevant to the police's investigation). They will be all telling the "truth" but the truth is different for all of them due to their perception of what happened. The actual "truth" of the event includes what they saw and everything else as well.

I understand your point of being able to verify details and claim that the truth is known about that detail, ie the gold watch. This can lead us down the slippery slope of arguing over semantics: when you say a gold watch do you mean that the whole watch is gold? or just the case? Does your definition of gold include alloys which most objects that we call "gold" actually are? It's rare to find a watch that even in parts is 100% pure gold. So in saying that the watch is gold you may be correct, (if you saw it), but if I said that the watch is not gold I may also be correct because we see and understand what the watch is differently. Of course that doesn't change what the watch actually is.

Of course, in day to day mundane life we can reach a consensus and agree on points for the sake of practicality. We can probably agree on the point that we are both human, hopefully, and be satisfied with that. But what we mean when we say the word "human" may not be the same thing and what we actually are is probably more than what either of us can comprehend.

One other point...you said...If God is everything and everywhere then God is also what we perceive him/she/it as;...I personally dont think that God is everything...(ex. my shoe...though God may be the ultimate creator of everything, I dont believe that he is my shoe.) Now addressing that entire statement, in parenthesis you said...I'm just following a line of reasoning here...Reason doesn't tell me that God is what we percieve him/she/it as...even if God were everything and everywhere. Once again, perception doesn't make it true...you even said it yourself right here..."Like what you said below, my perception of you doesn't make you who you are."...I believe that both of us are in agreeance that perception has nothing to do with who God really is yet you still use perception as a way of determining who God is. That is making your line of reason, unreasonable IMO. In other words, I just cant conclude that God is what I perceieve him as (in the way that you're saying it).

I really do enjoy debating this with you but I "perceive" that there is no end to this debate because we don't share any common ground on the issue. I could be wrong on this so dont qoute me but i thought I read somewhere you saying that you don't believe in God...maybe not, Im not sure about that, nevertheless, that would be the common ground that I would need to go on with this. Please finalize my response with your own.

dac

haha. You are probably correct in surmising that there is no end to this debate but it is nevertheless interesting and I for one enjoy having my assumptions and beliefs challenged because that helps me to gain a better understanding, which is my aim in engaging in this discussion in the first place.

I think I have stated that I am not religious, which is true, but I do believe in God in a sense. I can almost guarantee that my idea of God is different from yours, no matter. If we start debating about the nature of God then that becomes a theological debate which it would be wise of both of us to avoid. Let it be said I have the utmost respect for your spiritual beliefs and do not desire to challenge them; spirituality is a very personal thing and no-one has the right to dictate what others should believe even if we think they are wrong. If someone is open to a discussion on those grounds then that is fine but it requires a great deal of tact, compassion and understanding to tackle these issues without causing offense.

Okay having said that let me answer your assertions:

Okay, our perception of what God is does not make what God is, agreed. However our perception of God's nature is a truth about God, not the whole truth mind you but it is nevertheless true. God is more than what we perceive him/her/it as but an aspect of God is how God manifests him/her/itself to us.

I believe that the truth about God, (aspects of the whole truth), have been revealed to people all over the world since time immemorial. A group of nomads wandering through the desert a few thousand years ago do not have a monopoly on the truth. All religions and spiritual philosophies understand God in different ways not because they are all wrong but because they are all right. They differ in how they perceive the eternal truth and I believe that at their core they are all describing the same thing. Our human nature colours how we perceive reality but it does not change what is real. When we find common ground between religions and each other we make a step closer to the ultimate truth. So I believe that we are all right but to find the ultimate truth we need to look beyond our limited perception of the truth.

That's at least where I'm coming from on this; maybe you can understand my position better from what I have written. Your beliefs are probably different and that's more than cool. I think at least we can avoid some misunderstanding if I let you know where I stand.

Respect.
 
On the subject of why people disagree, thats easy, Its because we are all different so cant possibly all agree.
Whats hard is why people cant agree to disagree and get on with their lives without the disagreement being an issue.

PS. How did this become an issue of God?
 
ill o.g.
Im not following you...How can 2 people disagree (on the same topic) and both be right? there is only one truth not several different ones. To disagree is to show difference in whatever...which means that one is right or both are wrong. Im gonna need an example of what you mean.

This does happen sometimes actually, its called arguing over semantics. Its when you both know and mean the same thing but both perceive/express it differently...
 
Top