So if I am joking about something like hooking up with Keysha Coles... it means that deep down inside, I probably would? Because my playfulness of the subject reflects what is on my core? Which I can see. Cuz I would bone the hell out of her if I could get away with it. I had to learn this lesson the hard way, when one day I joked about my wife's friend being super hot. Jokes can reveal what is on your mind.
it means that sometimes what we joke about is a clue to personality traits which we need to improve or change, determining if we would want someone joking about those things toward us.
Being a good person is the greatest investment and will bring happiness while being a bad person brings immediate pleasure with a debt that is payed in sadness.
i remember one relationship that i was in where i said awful things from my unbalanced nature and the unbalance of the relationship. it was only after i was alone for many years did i realize how that made me unhappy and depressed without even realizing it.
also, sorry for personally giving advise without being asked for it.. that was type rude of me.
much love Omnious,
-chrono t