...and this is precisely why i refuse to commit to a woman.

God

Creator of the Universe
ill o.g.
so, i attended my little brothers wedding on saturday. my stepsisters were there and plenty of pictures were taken. sunday i wake up at noon to a phone call from one of my sisters, saying her roomate saw a picture of me and wanted to meet me. cool, no problem.

so we meet and hit it off great. turns out we have a lot of shit in common- similar backgrounds, both creative types, have a lot of personality traits that made us two peas in a pod from jump street. so, you know, a little kiss here and there and i wind up spending the night. things get a little hot, and i let her know i dig her and i would rather chill and not go down that road like this. and thats the path i should have stayed on, cause i closed the deal and hit anyways it against my better judgment. and uhm...... shit was top 5. a marathon 3 hour session that left us both drained and satisfied. she even posted as much on myspace. lol.

anyhow i left and returned later the next day, and all was well. mostly we chilled, ran some errands and whatnot. we wound up gettin down again, twice, each time even better then the last. we chilled for the rest of the night and all day yesterday, until she had to work. we didn't get busy yesterday but we were real affectionate and learned alot more to like about each other.

so on the way back we start discussing the situation. she was a little worried because she wasn't sure if i was just there for the sex, kinda scared because we hit it off so quickly. so i told her, and i meant it, that if she didn't see potential for us to go anywhere real together, then i would rather not see her nay longer, because i like her and would rather work on building a real relationship then have a fuck buddy. i just don't want that from her. she breathed a sigh of relief and said she felt better, she doesn't really want a fling, etc and she says she would like to continue down that path. we made no commitments but understood that niether of us are-or will be- seeing anyone else. perfect! things look good.

so she decides she wants to see me again that night and tells me she's gonna pick me up after work, now of course she works late at an hour away and likely won't be at my place till 2:30 am and i said i'm cool with that. so 2:30 hits, then 3 and i call to make sure she's still coming or what. 3:45, and i call letting her know i'm off to bed but hey, just text and let me know your good and nothing bad happened.

anyhow, 5pm and still no word so i hit up my sister to see if everything is ok. turns out they went out, got home late, and then she had to take her "friend" home in the morning. now, i didn't ask who the friend was, male or female. all i wanted to know was if she was safe, since most people call when there is a change of plans, and at the very least have the sense to call when they have someone waiting on them at 3am when they change their plans like that. plus, where the fuck are you going out to that late? i don't think she even went to work to be honest.

course, i know the writing is on the wall and i'm a little bummed because i was hoping to see something come out of this. i know the signs and have seen it before, different stories and circumstances, different women, but it seems the second i give in to the idea that things it ends then and there. so yeah there is some common thread there with me but i can't figure it out- it's not as if it happens this way each time, this fast, etc. i could be trippin but i'm mentally moved on and out of this situation already cause the spidey sense is tingling.

but yeah, this is pretty much why i avoid even attempting to establish any sort of a relationship.

CT:

She fucks you quickly after she sees you, posts it on MySpace to "tell" her friends. She then doesn't want to feel slutty and makes up a story about "a path of a relationship" - so she can justify to herself and her friends that she really ISN'T A WHORE THAT FUCKS GUYS SHE JUST MET. So she makes up an excuse for herself (the "relationship question") that it's YOUR fault that you don't want to commit to a relationship.

It's self-justification for her. Normal women don't throw that around just off the bat unless they let it slip and they're "husband-hunting."

Do you think she was husband hunting or was she creating a deniable situation (you "rejecting her" for a long-term relationship) justifying why she was a slut? She thought about how quickly she escalated w/fucking you and felt guilty she did it. She made the relationship story to "blame" you for the "separation" that she actually wanted.

Or maybe she's just a freak, and you need to proactively find chicks that have better self-esteem that you CAN fuck and CAN hang out with in a friendly way.
 
CT:

She fucks you quickly after she sees you, posts it on MySpace to "tell" her friends. She then doesn't want to feel slutty and makes up a story about "a path of a relationship" - so she can justify to herself and her friends that she really ISN'T A WHORE THAT FUCKS GUYS SHE JUST MET. So she makes up an excuse for herself (the "relationship question") that it's YOUR fault that you don't want to commit to a relationship.

It's self-justification for her. Normal women don't throw that around just off the bat unless they let it slip and they're "husband-hunting."

Do you think she was husband hunting or was she creating a deniable situation (you "rejecting her" for a long-term relationship) justifying why she was a slut? She thought about how quickly she escalated w/fucking you and felt guilty she did it. She made the relationship story to "blame" you for the "separation" that she actually wanted.

Or maybe she's just a freak, and you need to proactively find chicks that have better self-esteem that you CAN fuck and CAN hang out with in a friendly way.

I didnt realise you could get so much understanding of females from a strip joint and pornos, but fucking hell, I think you hit the nail on the head. Thats some great insight into the female mind.

Im beggining to wonder if its the real god after all.
God is the only man that understands women.
 

StressWon

www.stress1.com
ill o.g.
Battle Points: 68
CT:

She fucks you quickly after she sees you, posts it on MySpace to "tell" her friends. She then doesn't want to feel slutty and makes up a story about "a path of a relationship" - so she can justify to herself and her friends that she really ISN'T A WHORE THAT FUCKS GUYS SHE JUST MET. So she makes up an excuse for herself (the "relationship question") that it's YOUR fault that you don't want to commit to a relationship..


DING DING DING!

Give the man a prize!
 

Cold Truth

IllMuzik Moderator
ill o.g.
Battle Points: 25
Truth still tells the best stories barnone....

hahaha thanks man. at least mi vida loca has some intrinsic entertainment value. lol.

update:

i have seen her since, there is some other shit that i'm not gonna share just yet. all i'm gonna say is that i'ma see what happens and i'll report back when things settle and i have more to add to the story, good or bad.

just for clarification, that myspace thing, she didn't post up like that, she just changed her mood to "satisfied". she didn't tell anyone her business like that. she also posted a status message saying thanks for a great night, but again, she didn't post up that she got some or anything like that.

certain things are misread or misunderstood here, but at this point i'm intrigued and i'ma see what happens. i have seen her since and we hashed out a few things and all is good, but who knows where it's headed. i head back to work next week so he time to see anyone is gonna be next to zero anyways.

at the end of the day, i'll have another story at least. ha.

oh, and if all i liked was the sex, i wouldn't have chilled the next day.
 

God

Creator of the Universe
ill o.g.
hahaha thanks man. at least mi vida loca has some intrinsic entertainment value. lol.

update:

i have seen her since, there is some other shit that i'm not gonna share just yet. all i'm gonna say is that i'ma see what happens and i'll report back when things settle and i have more to add to the story, good or bad.

just for clarification, that myspace thing, she didn't post up like that, she just changed her mood to "satisfied". she didn't tell anyone her business like that. she also posted a status message saying thanks for a great night, but again, she didn't post up that she got some or anything like that.

certain things are misread or misunderstood here, but at this point i'm intrigued and i'ma see what happens. i have seen her since and we hashed out a few things and all is good, but who knows where it's headed. i head back to work next week so he time to see anyone is gonna be next to zero anyways.

at the end of the day, i'll have another story at least. ha.

oh, and if all i liked was the sex, i wouldn't have chilled the next day.

COLD:

You're making excuses as to why are you going back to her. The question is... why don't you have other women that you're seeing at the same time?

She basically tested you and you didn't stand up for yourself by showing that you were not emotionally engaged (by texting many times) - now she can put you through more hoops so she can gain the upper hand over you.

If I were you - I would see this chick but make it obvious to your sister or her that you're also seeing other women. A man with options is viewed differently by a woman.

You can easily turn this around, but you also seem to be validating why you hung out with her and making excuses for her tooling you bc you want to fuck her.

I've had my share of dating women with "princess" complexes or women who think they're "so hot they feel autmatically entitled" to anything.

Bring her down a notch or two - don't buy into the bullshit - take control of the relationship.
 

Cold Truth

IllMuzik Moderator
ill o.g.
Battle Points: 25
COLD:

You're making excuses as to why are you going back to her. The question is... why don't you have other women that you're seeing at the same time?

She basically tested you and you didn't stand up for yourself by showing that you were not emotionally engaged (by texting many times) - now she can put you through more hoops so she can gain the upper hand over you.

If I were you - I would see this chick but make it obvious to your sister or her that you're also seeing other women. A man with options is viewed differently by a woman.

You can easily turn this around, but you also seem to be validating why you hung out with her and making excuses for her tooling you bc you want to fuck her.

I've had my share of dating women with "princess" complexes or women who think they're "so hot they feel autmatically entitled" to anything.

Bring her down a notch or two - don't buy into the bullshit - take control of the relationship.

well, because at this point... i'm not looking at it as a relationship or anything then what it has been already. so perspective is changed, expectations are changed, and i'm goin on with my business. i'm not going to put work into establishing anything after that. i'm mad leery and keeping my distance. who knows whats gonna happen.. but i am no longer invested in establishing anything on a deeper level.
 

Benny BuKu

BAD NEWS
ill o.g.
listen man....no disrespect if you end up makin her wifey....but she smashed you right away. That's not wifey...that's late night, after hittin the club jump off material. She prolly wanted to meet up at 3am cause she wasn't expecting to find 'ol boy at the club...but she did....so you was outta luck that night.
And that's ya sister's homegirl? That's fucked up too...she should be warning you about the chicken heads...

This is why I'm glad I'm out the game....I'm grown and don't have the time or patience.

Anyway, good luck with that man. And above ALL else.....be "safe"....nah mean?
 
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